Cheater, cheater pumpkin eater

After what seemed like the longest week EVER, my girl and I decided to grab a drink and catch up a bit and discuss some things. Among those things, men (of course) came up. We started talking about past relationships and then we brought up the subject of cheating. I’ve been cheated on before in the past and trust me, it hurt like hell (insert expletive here). I told her about how he called me everyday for days, sent emails, text messages – all were unanswered. Finally, I relented and met up with him about a week later and he was boo-hooing like a baby and telling me how sorry he was and that he loved me and it didn’t mean anything. He said that we were having issues and that she just happened to be there and one thing led to another. BS! I feel like he could’ve controlled himself or not even put himself in that situation, right?

So after telling my girl this story, I started thinking about the different reasons people cheat. Sometimes, the man is just a dog and does it to satisfy his ego, urges, whatever. And sometimes, he’s not getting it at home and what does he then do? He strays. Now is that his woman’s fault for not giving him any? Or should he have just kept his pants zipped up and worked on getting his woman to give him some? I don’t know, but a need was not being satisfied and someone else was willing. For women, it’s an emotional connection with another person – the man is either giving her attention that her current mate isn’t giving her or she feels some kind of way (see Laws of Attraction – that WOW factor) and she gives in.

So playing devil’s advocate I asked her, can men really help cheating? I know, I know, I’m going to get some responses where people are going to be like “HELL YES”, but let’s really think about it. How many times will a woman throw herself at a man before he FINALLY gives in? Don’t catch him on the wrong day; it could happen, especially when we all know that men are such visual creatures…

So what do you all think? Can men (and I guess woman, lol) help cheating?

-Ms. QTO