After what seemed like the longest week EVER, my girl and I decided to grab a drink and catch up a bit and discuss some things. Among those things, men (of course) came up. We started talking about past relationships and then we brought up the subject of cheating. I’ve been cheated on before in the past and trust me, it hurt like hell (insert expletive here). I told her about how he called me everyday for days, sent emails, text messages – all were unanswered. Finally, I relented and met up with him about a week later and he was boo-hooing like a baby and telling me how sorry he was and that he loved me and it didn’t mean anything. He said that we were having issues and that she just happened to be there and one thing led to another. BS! I feel like he could’ve controlled himself or not even put himself in that situation, right?
So after telling my girl this story, I started thinking about the different reasons people cheat. Sometimes, the man is just a dog and does it to satisfy his ego, urges, whatever. And sometimes, he’s not getting it at home and what does he then do? He strays. Now is that his woman’s fault for not giving him any? Or should he have just kept his pants zipped up and worked on getting his woman to give him some? I don’t know, but a need was not being satisfied and someone else was willing. For women, it’s an emotional connection with another person – the man is either giving her attention that her current mate isn’t giving her or she feels some kind of way (see Laws of Attraction – that WOW factor) and she gives in.
So playing devil’s advocate I asked her, can men really help cheating? I know, I know, I’m going to get some responses where people are going to be like “HELL YES”, but let’s really think about it. How many times will a woman throw herself at a man before he FINALLY gives in? Don’t catch him on the wrong day; it could happen, especially when we all know that men are such visual creatures…
So what do you all think? Can men (and I guess woman, lol) help cheating?
-Ms. QTO
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It depends on the person, personally as a man, as long as I have two hands I don't have to depend on anyone but myself to satisfy primal urges, but I haven't yet experienced a cold front in a relationship, but I'd break up with a person before I cheated on them. I would feel like an ass for doing it, and I wouldn't be able to keep it to myself.
ReplyDeleteJulius
WOW really...like men are automatically going to cheat. Keep the man happy, be open with him, ask him what he needs/wants (I am hoping he is doing the same, if not them you need to question your relationship). Only reason men cheat is because something is missing, they are immature or both.
ReplyDeleteWomen act like it is impossible for men not to cheat...that annoys me.
So to answer your question....YES Men can be faithful and not cheat
First off let me get the HELL YES out the way right damn now. Secondly, I like how this image of men are just these thristy cats,holding their package looking for their next "fix" of new booty, when its some women out there in these streets that will make the most grimey man look like a choir boy. Jon said it best, unhappiness in my opinion is the leading cause of break ups. Think about it, if you love your job and getting compensated well, why look for another one?
ReplyDeleteChuuch
Last Train to Paris, Get on or Get off! Let's Go!!
"People cheat because they are missing sth and are not happy. You dont cheat if you are fully committed in a relationship" - Diana.
ReplyDeleteLike I said last night cheating is never right but they are two sides to the story that may detail why the cheating occurred and why both parties are wrong or both parties are wrong. If things get to where a person feels like they have to cheat they need to step away from the relationship and evaluate what they really need.
Come on people...I really wasn't implying that ALLLLL men cheat, I was just voicing a thought I had. I know plenty of men who haven't cheated. I was just asking if a woman continues to throw it in your face, eventually, the man would cave IF they are caught on the right day...that's all I was saying :-)
ReplyDeleteI believe that people cheat due to something they are missing in their current relationship. Good or bad, that's the reason.