The First Date

I know, I know…I’m slacking. I'm sure you're on the edge of your seat wanting to know how the date went, lol. And if you don't know what I'm talking about, see What is considered too soon.... So, my date with guy #2 was great! We had great conversation, had some serious moments, but overall, a great night. Maybe I’ll get to see him again soon… ;-)

So first dates…what makes a good first date? I think you definitely need to have good conversation, which is why I don’t like movies as first dates – you can’t talk (well, I talk during movies and that can get annoying) and you really don’t have a chance to get to know the person…

So what are the dos and donts on a first date? Here's what I came up with:

1.Do make a good impression – make sure your hair is done, clothes are ironed, breath is fresh, lips are glossed, and make sure your swag is on point - first impressions are everything.

2. Don’t over do it! No one wants to be out with someone who is trying too hard or being fake.

3. Do keep the conversation interesting - I think it’s ok to have some things in mind that you want to talk about, but don’t make it sound like a script.

4. Don’t talk about why you hate men/women, your last relationship (especially if you’re not over it), or anything else that would make the other person question why they are even with you

5. Do go with the flow – if things are great, fine, continue to enjoy the other person’s company but…

6. Don’t force it – if you’re not feeling it, let the person know so you’re not stringing them along

7. Do be courteous – Men open the door, walk on the outside of the street, pay for the bill – Women – say thank you, leave the tip (not always necessary but it’s a nice gesture)

8. Do – stay engaged in the conversation – listen, comment, and contribute to the conversation.

9. Don’t only talk about yourself – no one wants to hear about why your boss sucks or what size shoe you wear (although I guess that’s good info lol).

10. Do look the person in the eyes and be attentive to the person.

11. Don’t let your eyes wander!!!!!! Big no-no.

12. Do get a little physical – no folks, I don’t mean s-e-x; a hug is fine, a kiss on the cheek, a kiss on the mouth (think peck, not a tongue down) if you’re feeling it.

13. Don’t get overzealous – read the body language and don’t go for it unless the date is going well and DO NOT suggest going back to your/her place..not a good look.

14. Do follow up – women, let the guy know you made it ok (if you met at out somewhere place), men, make sure your date got home safely if you don’t hear from her.

15. If you dropped her off, do NOT drive off without allowing her to get safely inside. Also, if you contact her and she doesn't contact you (or vice versa), DO NOT bombard the person with text messages, emails, IMs, tweets, fb comments, etc. NOT a good look!

16. HAVE FUN! Don’t take it so seriously…it’s JUST a first date!

Needless to say, I think the date went extremely well :-). I’ve talked to him since then, so we shall see what happens. No word from #1 (which is soon to be forgotten about and #2 is not about to become #1, for now lol).

So what does everyone think? What are the absolute dos and donts on a first date?

-Ms. QTO