It's the WEEKEND!!! YAY! It's been a beautiful weekend so far in Milwaukee and as much as I wanted to spend the night in doing school work, I decided to step out with my girl...
Speaking of stepping out...so last weekend, me and my girl went out and we were kinda on the prowl, emphasis on kinda, lol. We were trying to go to different places and check out the scenery - cute men, beautiful people, etc. Let's just say it didn't go as planned, but we did have some practice in approaching men (her, not me, I was playing shy that night...not enough to drink, lol). So it got me to thinking, do men actually like to be approached? What we found was that any potential new interest was on the phone texting (which led us to believe they were texting a woman) so we would dismiss trying to talk to that guy. But when we DID approach and expressed interest and left it up to the man to then make a move...NOTHING! Now is it that it was too aggressive (or of course, they just weren't interested, but I'm dismissing that for now lol)? Do men like to be in control and make the first move? I always thought some men were afraid of rejection and rather than get rejected, they post up against the wall and stare, rather than approaching. And I also thought that when a woman did approach, it would make it that much easier. Not that particular Saturday! And to add insult to injury...the only men who did approach us were strippers, lol!
So, should women approach men or should we just let the men come to us?
-Ms. QTO
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ReplyDeleteId like to believe we still live in the age that men approach women, but alas...we dont. Dudes have gotten scared and I think dont like the rejection. Therefore unless its something they really want or are interested in then they arent gonna move a beat. Also like we were saying earlier, the good ones are probably just out to have a good time and not necessarily searching for a woman. So although I want it to go the other way I know that now-a-days I have to go after what I want or figure out someother sly way of tricking them to come to me.
ReplyDeleteI think men should approach women, period. I'm not saying that you can't give them a little encouragement. You can stare him down a little bit to get his attention, then make some eye contact to let him know you're interested. So, I guess that could be one of those sly ways of tricking the men to come to you.
ReplyDeleteI'm wit GC. If women swear up and down that they can do anything a man can do; then they can make the first move and approach a dude. Trust me, dude are much more receptive to that kinda thing than women are...And what's wit all the trickery? Dude's don't like to be tricked. No one does. We do like a woman that has the courage to approach, though.
ReplyDeleteLook guys, I understand you are afraid of rejection, being tricked, whatever and as you can see, I am NOT shy - I can approach men. HOWEVER, I feel like the fact that you guys just take the passive approach is one of the reasons why you are single as well. Sometimes you see someone you like and if the woman would've never approached (like my case on Saturday), I would've never met the guys. Why? Because ya'll are scared of rejection. And yes, we are independent, we do feel like we can meet and mingle as well as any man, but at the end of the day, men should be the aggressor, not the woman.
ReplyDeleteBut the whole the reason you are single is because you are passive door swings both ways. Nobody likes rejection, man or woman. I do think that some guys look for an indication of mutual interest from the woman before pursuing but I don't think its always the man's job to approach the woman. If you are not on his radar and want to be, put yourself on his radar.
ReplyDeleteThat's an interesting dichotomy
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