I usually don't post twice a day, but since we are on the subject of great first dates, I decided to add another one….
I was just discussing my post about The First Date with some folks and one of the things that stood out (to the guys anyway, lol) is #13 - Inviting yourself/her back to your/her place. Here's my rationale behind it.
1. Women don't want you to think that if you are going back to their/your home that that’s what they are about OR that they owe you something for a nice date. I think when men go back to a person’s house to kick it, they think they are going to get more than what they actually are and the level of expectation changes.
2. IF a woman DOES invite you to her spot and says something like “I normally don’t do this”, most men don’t believe her anyway, and she STILL looks like a hoe, slut, whatever.
3. IF it was a great date, no need to rush and go back to your place, that will happen in due time.
I think here are a few reasons why women, even if they do want to give it up the first night (which I don’t recommend, but that’s just me), why they don’t:
1. They will look like a hoe, plain and simple.
2. If you want to really consider dating this person, or at least see where it goes, giving it up will probably dissuade a man from pursuing you, ESPECIALLY if he got the business already.
3. They will look like a hoe, lol.
4. I think SOME men, even if they do take it, will not consider that woman wifey material. The thinking is if she does it with you, then who else?
Now how can you tell if you should invite the girl (guy) back to your spot? Women, can you tell from meeting the guy that he’s worthy of the business? Men, do you know from jump that you want to get in those jeans?
-Ms. QTO
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This what I think about da situation. First of all a man knows if he's going to be with you just to pass time or if it's going to be a longevity type deal. Also he can play the role until he gets the bizness. So weather it's the first date the third date or six weeks from now it can still end up with you starting back at square one. Not saying all men but majority play the game for the thrill of the hunt, once captured it's no more fun. If he's good their are no signs just green lights.
ReplyDeleteI can pretty much tell right away what potential any particular woman has with me and for the most part that doesn't change much...But business on the first date doesn't bode well for the long term interests (which is backwards oddly enough). There are too many risks and uncertainty involved.
ReplyDeleteI'm not gonna lie, when I'm on the first date with a woman I am completely oblivious and not even thinking about going back to their place. Much less bringing them back to mine. LOL! I know it's crazy, but it's true. Some guys,(me included) are like that and just have fun on the dates and let what happens happen. Women control the pace of the date. Right down to if a guy gets the bizz or not. To me if I get it on the first night then I do and if not then oh well. I'm not gonna think less of the girl eighther way. Now if it's was being thrown at me, then I wouldn't be interested in that person and call it a night.
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