Does the man really find the woman (wife)?

Well folks, I think I'm done dating for a while. I don't think I really have the time to entertain men who don't understand that I have stuff going on in my life (work, school, family and friends) that was going on WAY before they stepped on the scene. I don't like clingy men or men that set expectations for ME without my consent, lol (ok, there is an lol out the end, but I really didn't mean that jokingly)....

I got to thinking about how one of my guy friends told me that I'm going to end up being 35 and single (which I actually responded and said GREAT, I will be a cougar lol) and will settle for just any old man who also wants to settle down. Why did he say that? First, because he said I'm so focused on my career and grad school, that I don't make time for dating (soooooo not true, lol). Next, he said that by the time I get to 35, all the good men will be taken (or have multiple kids, or would've been married already, etc) and that although it might not be an ideal situation, at that age, I will be ready to have babies and will just get with anyone to fulfill that purpose. Um...NO! I definitely would rather be by myself than to settle for just any ol' guy! I know my worth and I am not willing to settle. If I were that desperate, then I would've settled by now. Clearly I have not.

So I decided I'm going to lay low and focus on me (grad school and my career) and the things I love to do - hanging out with friends and traveling, until I meet that man :-) Once I made that decision (which I've made many times before and someone always shows back up on the scene, lol) I saw someone's facebook status about how women need to just chill out and stop looking for a man and he will find you. BUT, here's my thing...how do you chill out but yet be in the position to be "found"?! Doesn't that sound like any oxymoron? Is this like the childhood game hide and seek or come get it? I'm confused. I know they say it will happen, but whatever happened to going out for what you want? Being aggressive and if you see something you like, go for it? Or does that not pertain to men?

What do you all think? Does the man really find the woman (wife)? Speak on it! ;-)

-Ms. QTO